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Illusions and lies

There are some people who put out fake fronts or shall we call it illusions. Over the years we have noticed some of this at needhelppayingbills and I have faced it in other aspects of my life as well. We did write an article on fake fronts people put up implying they have money, income or are wealthy, but there are also many other examples of illusions being carried on for an extended period of time.

There are many examples that we at needhelppayingbills.com or I have discovered in my personal/business life on a first hand basis. Whether it is someone pretending over an extended period of time that they are doing much better than they are financially, a family who is on the website who is really just scamming the public assistance systems by saying they are poor, a job candidate not being accurate on their resume, and many others. The sad part is that people do not need to lie as this article (and others) state. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201701/6-reasons-people-lie-when-they-don-t-need rel=”nofollow”

Some examples

I have family member(s) who just talk about money and success. They had to have the “top of the line” and fanciest possessions. So they bought them and it turns out could not afford it. One had to live in NYC in a prime location by the park. However I later discovered that they were borrowing money from other family members and they were eventually evicted from their apartment. Others borrowed money as well in an illusion or being successful. Fake illusions and Images of wealth is fairly common these days as we wrote here. In my own personal experiences I can’t tell you how many times I have been around people who portray themselves as doing well, but I think in every case it has been a sham.

At needhelppayingbills we also get people sending us information on their friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, etc. who are scamming the system by creating illusions of their financial need. The requests may say that person X is receiving help from a charity or the government, but they are then using that money (say trading in food stamps) to buy drugs, alcohol, shopping or other “non-essential” items. Or maybe they emails to use says the person has the latest electronics in their home, or bought some new car, so the request to may say how are they receiving aid? They are looking to report them. There are also ongoing reports in the press of people scamming the government benefit system, non-profits, and other organizations.

They are in fact putting out long term illusions that they want the charity to think they are needy. It is of course not true, but an even more horrible result is it takes the limited assistance out there and in effect wastes it on someone who does not need help. Maybe for example there is a truly needy senior citizen who is barely eating, and they are much more in need of financial aid. Those reports come in to us at needhelp and we direct them to the proper area.

There are also the obvious requests to needhelppayingbills in which people may say they need say food, but they may say their income is Y dollar amount…an amount that is well above what they should need to buy food. Or those people who say they want government aid to pay a Cable TV bill. Or other ridiculous, shady type claims. We get many questionable emails over the months that do not seem like they make any sense, so they probably don’t and are scams/illusions.

Of course there are also personal examples as well in that people put up illusions or lies about themselves. It can be in any, or all aspects, of their life. Whether it is around money, employment, skillset, education, family, or anything, I have encountered this in my life or I have read about it over the years. You can also read about people who have illusions/lies about their employment or personal educational background, including a former CEO of Yahoo Scott Thompson or even the politician Melisa Howard.  Too many people are just not straightforward, or they lie, about some or all aspects of their people life. Unfortunately this is a fact of life as I have learned as I have aged.

In the corporate world I had a couple people apply for jobs and I was on the path to hiring them. I liked their experiences, the way they presented themselves, and they seemed to have other traits that seemed like they would be a good fit for their role. But it turns out they were not a good fit for the corporate role as when HR did a background check, it turned out their resume or experience they said they had was either exaggerated or not true, and it was an illusion. So the job candidate put out illusions of their qualifications, experiences, and more and it caught up to them and cost them a better opportunity.

It is always unfortunate in what people will try, and the illusions they put out over the long term. As it does not need to be done and always eventually catches up to them.


Jon McNamara is the CEO of needhelppayingbills.com, a company that he started in 2008 and that specializes in helping low income families as well as those who are in a financial hardship. He also found NHPB LLC, a company committed to helping the less fortunate. Jon and his team also provide free financial advice to help people learn about as well as manage their money. Every piece of content on this website has been reviewed by him before publishing and many of the articles he has personally written. Jon is the leading author for needhelppayingbils.

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