Re: Department Social Services not helping
Posted: Wed Mar 27, 2019 8:44 am
No money is available funds exhausted at DSS!!! I have called for several week spoke to case manager. Hello I am writing to you as my last resort. I am 35 years old have been married for 10 wonderful years 2 children and 3 step children. I had an American dream life! We did what every middle class family did sports, Vacations, Lake camping very active. My husband was a store manager for a retail chain bilo holding for many years worked his way all the way from a beggar.
We have 2 children together ages 10 and 13 both daddy’s girls to the extreme. He was there everything. It was February 2014 Brian came home from working the closing shift at work and I met him at the door he said he was not feeling well; his legs felt as if they were being shocked and it hurt! I told him maybe he just needed to get off of his feet some. He went to bed and woke up still in pain.
Several days later he said it was hard to lift his foot up or put any weight on his legs and he did not feel right. After several hours of negation I convinced him to go to the ER and let's check on it. We did and they took blood did x-rays. Was nothing major at all is blood cell count was elevated some inflammation is what the Dr. said so we said OK went home. Few weeks later same thing.
I was speaking with a family friend and they said it sounds like a neurological thing maybe go see a neurologist. So I made an appointment to see one that next week. I had no clue what to expect we went in he examined Brian. He was 350 lbs. 6ft 5 inches solid muscle.
I said well what is it he said we are not going to talk about it just schedule test and we did MRI cat scan and spinal tap. We did everything some test 2 times with every negative. We got the ALS probability was looking stronger. We were sent to a specialist in Winston Salem NC at the end of February we pulled up to the clinic and it reads ALS Clinic. I lost it with Department Social Services.
I had been on the computer and educated myself about this monster. He made me dry it up as he said and we went in several hours later several more test and several Doctors we got the news also. I was devastated. I knew it was terminal and 2-5 years at most. We left and did the 2 hour drive home me telling him they made a mistake now him. We told no one our kids are young he is there everything. By then beginning of March he was using a walker and he was placed on FMLA by his work because he was at a risk of falling! I worked a full time job also. The girls became use to him being at home.
By the end of September 2014 he was placed on long term disability. In November 2014 he was having issues breathing we stayed in the hospital for 15 days. Brian never walked again he became paralyzed legs and arms.
I quit my job in October to care for him all the time. I fed him changed him dressed him anything he needed done I was it. The girls would brush his teeth and feed him ice cream. They had to help me a lot giving up there play time are whatever. He never complained just the new normal. Brian had a strong faith and loved us so much.
May 16 2015 Brian woke me up at 745 and told me how much he loved me and always had and will. How strong of a woman I was and was so thankful that I took care of him and did not just throw him aside. I replied I told you I would never leave you and I want you are my soul mate. He smiled and said he was tired and was going to take a nap. That was the last words we ever said to one another.
Brian slipped into a coma and when I awoke he was in the stages of his body shutting down. I called 911. They came Dr Spoke with me and told me his diaphragm was closing and I needed to make a decision. Brian was at peace. He would not have wanted to be put on life support then at 1245 Brian passed away. Coming home telling my babies that was the hardest thing I have ever done. And then it hits me he is gone everything is gone I do not work and he made a salary of 80000.00 a year and with him being gone his long term is gone also what and how were we going to make it.
We had no savings left. Our out of pocket that also took from us was well over 60000.00 dollars. I had to set up a payment plan for the funeral. I am still fighting met life for insurance he elected different coverage in January when enrollment was available and got sick in March and they are giving me a fit. So we have nothing except survivor benefits. My rent has not been paid since he passed away, as DSS - Department Social Services not helping. I expect an eviction notice any-day now. I have no money for deposits to move and we only receive 869 for each of my girls.
I need help in the worst way. I finally got a job but I am already so far behind today my electric bill was due. It was 393 dollars. My paycheck was 411 cut off is at 5 today so I paid the bill I cannot get any help. I do not know what to do. My kids start school the end of the month. I cannot but clothes with what!! And they have always had these things. I cannot go buy a 5.00 pack of socks that's a gallon on milk and a loaf of bread. I do not know if you can help me or not but please let me know!! My landlord called me today and said I had to have rent month by the end of the week. Can you help me I have tried everything
We have 2 children together ages 10 and 13 both daddy’s girls to the extreme. He was there everything. It was February 2014 Brian came home from working the closing shift at work and I met him at the door he said he was not feeling well; his legs felt as if they were being shocked and it hurt! I told him maybe he just needed to get off of his feet some. He went to bed and woke up still in pain.
Several days later he said it was hard to lift his foot up or put any weight on his legs and he did not feel right. After several hours of negation I convinced him to go to the ER and let's check on it. We did and they took blood did x-rays. Was nothing major at all is blood cell count was elevated some inflammation is what the Dr. said so we said OK went home. Few weeks later same thing.
I was speaking with a family friend and they said it sounds like a neurological thing maybe go see a neurologist. So I made an appointment to see one that next week. I had no clue what to expect we went in he examined Brian. He was 350 lbs. 6ft 5 inches solid muscle.
I said well what is it he said we are not going to talk about it just schedule test and we did MRI cat scan and spinal tap. We did everything some test 2 times with every negative. We got the ALS probability was looking stronger. We were sent to a specialist in Winston Salem NC at the end of February we pulled up to the clinic and it reads ALS Clinic. I lost it with Department Social Services.
I had been on the computer and educated myself about this monster. He made me dry it up as he said and we went in several hours later several more test and several Doctors we got the news also. I was devastated. I knew it was terminal and 2-5 years at most. We left and did the 2 hour drive home me telling him they made a mistake now him. We told no one our kids are young he is there everything. By then beginning of March he was using a walker and he was placed on FMLA by his work because he was at a risk of falling! I worked a full time job also. The girls became use to him being at home.
By the end of September 2014 he was placed on long term disability. In November 2014 he was having issues breathing we stayed in the hospital for 15 days. Brian never walked again he became paralyzed legs and arms.
I quit my job in October to care for him all the time. I fed him changed him dressed him anything he needed done I was it. The girls would brush his teeth and feed him ice cream. They had to help me a lot giving up there play time are whatever. He never complained just the new normal. Brian had a strong faith and loved us so much.
May 16 2015 Brian woke me up at 745 and told me how much he loved me and always had and will. How strong of a woman I was and was so thankful that I took care of him and did not just throw him aside. I replied I told you I would never leave you and I want you are my soul mate. He smiled and said he was tired and was going to take a nap. That was the last words we ever said to one another.
Brian slipped into a coma and when I awoke he was in the stages of his body shutting down. I called 911. They came Dr Spoke with me and told me his diaphragm was closing and I needed to make a decision. Brian was at peace. He would not have wanted to be put on life support then at 1245 Brian passed away. Coming home telling my babies that was the hardest thing I have ever done. And then it hits me he is gone everything is gone I do not work and he made a salary of 80000.00 a year and with him being gone his long term is gone also what and how were we going to make it.
We had no savings left. Our out of pocket that also took from us was well over 60000.00 dollars. I had to set up a payment plan for the funeral. I am still fighting met life for insurance he elected different coverage in January when enrollment was available and got sick in March and they are giving me a fit. So we have nothing except survivor benefits. My rent has not been paid since he passed away, as DSS - Department Social Services not helping. I expect an eviction notice any-day now. I have no money for deposits to move and we only receive 869 for each of my girls.
I need help in the worst way. I finally got a job but I am already so far behind today my electric bill was due. It was 393 dollars. My paycheck was 411 cut off is at 5 today so I paid the bill I cannot get any help. I do not know what to do. My kids start school the end of the month. I cannot but clothes with what!! And they have always had these things. I cannot go buy a 5.00 pack of socks that's a gallon on milk and a loaf of bread. I do not know if you can help me or not but please let me know!! My landlord called me today and said I had to have rent month by the end of the week. Can you help me I have tried everything