Married wrong guy now struggling

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Married wrong guy now struggling

Postby Joaquin » Mon Oct 22, 2018 3:17 pm

I married the wrong guy. Built a house with him. And have been essentially homeless for two years since our separation and divorce. I've lived in a camper. I've couch surfed. All of the above. And still happily went to work. He and his girlfriend enjoy the cozy abode happily. Yes, I am a statistic. I am a woman who lost everything in the divorce. Including my vehicle. That's a hard truth to swallow or even to speak. Why? Because the stress was killing me. (Literally) and he comes from money. And I don't.
I have continued on and done my best. But recently I've hit a wall. I have $300 in my checking account. My CC has $800 that needs to be paid off. And I am without a vehicle. Recently my health has taken a turn for the worse. I have what's called 'hypothyroidism' a serious autoimmune disease that makes it very difficult to function on a day to day basis. A lovely side effect is depression. I've taken some time off from work to do some soul searching. Now I have returned home. Broke, without a vehicle. Sleeping on a friends couch. Credit card debt for the first time ever. I had an agreement to return back to work but my manager hasn't returned my call (it is slow season)
I don't need much. Some groceries and maybe if there's a program that can help me finance a vehicle. Possibly some assistance with this CC bill. However if it will take a hit on my credit, I would like to avoid that. As my credit was destroyed by my ex and I've worked very hard to get it back. I can forward whatever information you may need. Or openly interview or talk with whomever. I am located in the state of VT.
Again, I'm willing to help myself. I am not asking for sympathy. Rather than taking responsibility and doing what needs to be done in a very real situation. Miracles exist right?! One of the worst feelings I have come to know, is that sometimes your best isn't good enough. Although it nearly breaks my heart to admit that. It's the truth. We all need help sometimes. I have failed in getting back up on my feet after the divorce kicked my butt. Emotionally and physically. I find it hard that my life has turned so utterly turbulent the last two years while my Ex has lived luxuriously and comfortably. Always eating and having a place to sleep at night. I'm young. The world is beautiful. I yearn for peace of mind, peace in my heart. That's all I ask for. I have always been independent with my own vehicle and able to help others. Now, I feel so awful that I can't even help myself.
Well, why can't I ask my parents for help? It's an ache in my heart. But they too, are losing everything right now. Maybe if I can get help back on my feet, I can help my parents be ok again.
Thank you for taking time to read my genuine heartfelt story that has somehow turned out to be my life. Please know how difficult this was to share, to admit defeat and to finally ask for help.
Endless gratitude.

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Re: Married wrong guy now struggling

Postby Admin » Thu Feb 28, 2019 5:40 pm

So sorry to hear that. Women are not treated as well in this country. Not by courts, child custody court cases, employers (they only make something like 80 cents on dollar of men), not in corporate board rooms, and not treated as well in many other ways. Look at metoo movement as one more example. We would suggest free legal aid, which we have info on the site. I have learned alot about this, and you should be able to get something from divorce, and your details of not getting anything does not sound right or does not even sound possible. Every state has some form of division of assets. As far as your other needs, there are also charitiy financial aid programs since you have such a long list of needs.

Joaquin wrote:I married the wrong guy. Built a house with him. And have been essentially homeless for two years since our separation and divorce. I've lived in a camper. I've couch surfed. All of the above. And still happily went to work. He and his girlfriend enjoy the cozy abode happily. Yes, I am a statistic. I am a woman who lost everything in the divorce. Including my vehicle. That's a hard truth to swallow or even to speak. Why? Because the stress was killing me. (Literally) and he comes from money. And I don't.
I have continued on and done my best. But recently I've hit a wall. I have $300 in my checking account. My CC has $800 that needs to be paid off. And I am without a vehicle. Recently my health has taken a turn for the worse. I have what's called 'hypothyroidism' a serious autoimmune disease that makes it very difficult to function on a day to day basis. A lovely side effect is depression. I've taken some time off from work to do some soul searching. Now I have returned home. Broke, without a vehicle. Sleeping on a friends couch. Credit card debt for the first time ever. I had an agreement to return back to work but my manager hasn't returned my call (it is slow season)
I don't need much. Some groceries and maybe if there's a program that can help me finance a vehicle. Possibly some assistance with this CC bill. However if it will take a hit on my credit, I would like to avoid that. As my credit was destroyed by my ex and I've worked very hard to get it back. I can forward whatever information you may need. Or openly interview or talk with whomever. I am located in the state of VT.
Again, I'm willing to help myself. I am not asking for sympathy. Rather than taking responsibility and doing what needs to be done in a very real situation. Miracles exist right?! One of the worst feelings I have come to know, is that sometimes your best isn't good enough. Although it nearly breaks my heart to admit that. It's the truth. We all need help sometimes. I have failed in getting back up on my feet after the divorce kicked my butt. Emotionally and physically. I find it hard that my life has turned so utterly turbulent the last two years while my Ex has lived luxuriously and comfortably. Always eating and having a place to sleep at night. I'm young. The world is beautiful. I yearn for peace of mind, peace in my heart. That's all I ask for. I have always been independent with my own vehicle and able to help others. Now, I feel so awful that I can't even help myself.
Well, why can't I ask my parents for help? It's an ache in my heart. But they too, are losing everything right now. Maybe if I can get help back on my feet, I can help my parents be ok again.
Thank you for taking time to read my genuine heartfelt story that has somehow turned out to be my life. Please know how difficult this was to share, to admit defeat and to finally ask for help.
Endless gratitude.


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